Table
of Contents
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About This Book |
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About the Author |
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Preface |
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PART ONE |
LEARNING
BASIC SOCIAL SKILLS |
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Chapter 1 |
Skills to
Make a Good Impression |
3 |
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Skill 1 |
Making a
First Impression |
6 |
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Instructor Pages |
6 |
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Worksheet 1 |
What Is a Good Impression? |
7 |
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Worksheet 2 |
Your Appearance |
8 |
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Worksheet 3 |
Your Attitude |
10 |
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Worksheet 4 |
Getting Prepared |
11 |
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Worksheet 5 |
Asking Appropriate Questions |
12 |
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Skill 2 |
Thinking
About My Behavior |
14 |
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Instructor Pages |
14 |
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Worksheet 6 |
Picked out of a Crowd |
16 |
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Worksheet 7 |
Ways to Blend In |
18 |
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Worksheet 8 |
Unusual Behaviors |
19 |
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Worksheet 9 |
Behaviors That You Can’t Help |
20 |
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Worksheet 10 |
Neutral Behavior |
21 |
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Skill 3 |
Getting Rid
of Annoying Tendencies |
22 |
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Instructor Pages |
22 |
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Worksheet 11 |
Invading Personal Sp ac e |
23 |
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Worksheet 12 |
Interrupting |
25 |
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Worksheet 13 |
Repeating Yourself |
27 |
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Worksheet 14 |
Bodily Noises |
28 |
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Worksheet 15 |
Being Bossy |
29 |
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Skill 4 |
Having a
Pleasant Voice and Breath |
30 |
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Instructor Pages |
30 |
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Worksheet 16 |
Voice Volume |
32 |
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Worksheet 17 |
Voice Tone |
33 |
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Worksheet 18 |
Using Appropriate Language |
35 |
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Worksheet 19 |
Just Answer the Question! |
36 |
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Worksheet 20 |
Bad Breath |
38 |
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Skill 5 |
Being a
Good listener |
39 |
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Instructor Pages |
39 |
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Worksheet 21 |
Identifying a Good Listener |
41 |
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Worksheet 22 |
How to Be a Good Listener |
43 |
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Worksheet 23 |
Important Listening Situations |
45 |
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Worksheet 24 |
What Problems Do You See? |
46 |
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Worksheet 25 |
Skit Revisited: Identifying the
Listening Skills |
48 |
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Skill 6 |
Sharpening
My Communication Skills |
50 |
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Instructor Pages |
50 |
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Worksheet 26 |
What Is Communication? |
52 |
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Worksheet 27 |
Communication Through Behavior |
53 |
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Worksheet 28 |
Communication Through Expressions |
54 |
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Worksheet 29 |
Messages |
55 |
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Worksheet 30 |
Practice Your Communication Skills |
56 |
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Skill 7 |
Siring Up
My Reputation |
57 |
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Instructor Pages |
57 |
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Worksheet 31 |
What Others Say About You |
59 |
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Worksheet 32 |
Developing a Reputation |
60 |
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Worksheet 33 |
Misjudging Others |
62 |
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Worksheet 34 |
What Kind of Reputation Do You Want? |
64 |
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Worksheet 35 |
Changing Your Reputation |
65 |
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Chapter 2 |
Skills for
Self- Improvement |
67 |
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Skill 8 |
Having a Good
Sense of Humor |
71 |
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Instructor Pages |
71 |
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Worksheet 36 |
Benefits of a Sense of Humor |
72 |
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Worksheet 37 |
Creating Humor Appropriately |
73 |
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Worksheet 38 |
Easing Tension with Humor |
74 |
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Worksheet 39 |
Laughing WITH, not Laughing AT |
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Worksheet 40 |
Using Humor to Include Others |
77 |
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Skill 9 |
Expressing
Myself Appropriately |
78 |
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Instructor Pages |
78 |
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Worksheet 41 |
Expressing Myself with Words |
80 |
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Worksheet 43 |
Waiting Before Responding |
82 |
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Worksheet 43 |
Avoiding Getting Upset |
84 |
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Worksheet 44 |
Public vs. Private Conversations |
85 |
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Worksheet 45 |
Communicating via E-Mail |
86 |
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Skill 10 |
Viewing
Things Realistically |
88 |
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Instructor Pages |
88 |
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Worksheet 46 |
Making Realistic Changes |
90 |
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Worksheet 47 |
Improbable or Impossible? |
91 |
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Worksheet 48 |
Making Changes for the Better: Habits
and Friends |
93 |
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Worksheet 49 |
Making Changes for the Better:
Attitudes and Actions |
95 |
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Worksheet 50 |
It Could Happen |
97 |
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Skill 11 |
Standing Up
for Myself |
99 |
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Instructor Pages |
99 |
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Worksheet 51 |
That’s Not Right! |
101 |
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Worksheet 52 |
What Do I Believe? |
103 |
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Worksheet 53 |
Why Do I Think That Way? |
104 |
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Worksheet 54 |
Beliefs and Behavior |
105 |
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Worksheet 55 |
What’s the Problem? |
107 |
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Skill 12 |
Making Good
Decisions |
108 |
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Instructor Pages |
108 |
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Worksheet 56 |
Questions to Ask Yourself |
110 |
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Worksheet 57 |
A Decision-Making Chart |
112 |
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Worksheet 58 |
What Decision Need to Be Made? |
113 |
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Worksheet 59 |
When You Need More Information |
115 |
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Worksheet 60 |
Head vs. Heart Decisions |
117 |
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Skill 13 |
Controlling
My Emotions |
119 |
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Instructor Pages |
119 |
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Worksheet 61 |
Why Should We Control Our Emotions? |
120 |
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Worksheet 63 |
First Reaction |
122 |
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Worksheet 63 |
What Triggers Your Emotions? |
124 |
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Worksheet 64 |
Controlling What You Show |
126 |
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Worksheet 65 |
Alternative Reactions |
127 |
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Skill 14 |
Making Good
Friends |
128 |
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Instructor Pages |
128 |
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Worksheet 66 |
Is This a Good Friend? |
130 |
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Worksheet 67 |
Ways to Make Friends |
131 |
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Worksheet 68 |
Are You a Good Friend? |
132 |
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Worksheet 69 |
Friends Affect Us |
133 |
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Worksheet 70 |
Why We Want Friends |
135 |
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Skill 15 |
Using
Common Sense |
137 |
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Instructor Pages |
137 |
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Worksheet 71 |
What’s Common About Common Sense? |
139 |
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Worksheet 72 |
Looking for Clues |
140 |
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Worksheet 73 |
Thinking Harder |
141 |
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Worksheet 74 |
Thinking Smarter |
143 |
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Worksheet 75 |
Using Your Common Sense |
145 |
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Skill 16 |
Having a
Good “Work Ethic |
146 |
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Instructor Pages |
146 |
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Worksheet 76 |
Understanding the Job |
147 |
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Worksheet 77 |
Staying on Task |
148 |
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Worksheet 78 |
Knowing When to Ask for Help |
149 |
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Worksheet 79 |
Making a Quick Decision |
151 |
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Worksheet 80 |
Job Completion |
153 |
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Chapter 3 |
Skills for
Being Around Others |
155 |
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Skill 17 |
“Reading”
Other People |
159 |
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Instructor Pages |
159 |
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Worksheet 81 |
A New Kind of Reading |
161 |
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Worksheet 83 |
Facial Expressions |
162 |
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Worksheet 83 |
Tone of Voice |
163 |
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Worksheet 84 |
Body Language |
164 |
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Worksheet 85 |
Sincerity |
165 |
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Skill 18 |
Knowing
Expectations |
166 |
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Instructor Pages |
166 |
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Worksheet 86 |
Knowing What to Expect: People |
168 |
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Worksheet 87 |
Knowing What to Expect: Situations |
169 |
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Worksheet 88 |
Knowing What Is Expected: Tasks |
170 |
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Worksheet 89 |
Knowing What to Expect: Past
Experiences |
171 |
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Worksheet 90 |
Knowing What Is Expected: Commonsense
Clues |
172 |
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Skill 19 |
Negotiating
or Compromising |
173 |
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Instructor Pages |
173 |
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Worksheet 91 |
Negotiation as a Social Skill |
175 |
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Worksheet 92 |
Why You Can’t Always Have Your Own
Way |
177 |
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Worksheet 93 |
Situations to Negotiate |
178 |
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Worksheet 94 |
Things That Aren’t Negotiable |
179 |
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Worksheet 95 |
Practice Negotiating |
180 |
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Skill 20 |
Understanding
Another’s Point of View |
181 |
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Instructor Pages |
181 |
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Worksheet 96 |
Introduction to a Different Viewpoint |
183 |
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Worksheet 97 |
Identifying Different Points of View |
184 |
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Worksheet 98 |
What’s the Basis for This Point of
View? |
185 |
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Worksheet 99 |
Changing Your Situation, Changing
Your Opinion |
186 |
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Worksheet 100 |
What Are Your Opinions? |
187 |
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Skill 21 |
Being
Flexible |
188 |
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Instructor Pages |
188 |
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Worksheet 101 |
Handling Changes |
190 |
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Worksheet 102 |
Changing Your Plans |
191 |
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Worksheet 103 |
Changing Your Mind |
192 |
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Worksheet 104 |
Being Open to New Things |
195 |
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Worksheet 105 |
Reflecting |
197 |
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Skill 22 |
Respecting
Authority |
198 |
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Instructor Pages |
198 |
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Worksheet 106 |
Interacting with Your Supervisor |
200 |
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Worksheet 107 |
When Your Boss Is Wrong |
202 |
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Worksheet 108 |
Other Authority Figures |
203 |
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Worksheet 109 |
Other Types of Authority |
205 |
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Worksheet 110 |
What Would You Do? |
207 |
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Skill 23 |
Making Others Feel
Comfortable |
208 |
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Instructor Pages |
208 |
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Worksheet 111 |
The Play |
210 |
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Worksheet 112 |
Embarrassing Moments for Others |
211 |
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Worksheet 113 |
Helping Others Through Stressful or
Uncomfortable Situations |
212 |
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Worksheet 114 |
Ordinary Times to Be Outgoing |
213 |
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Worksheet 115 |
Things to Beware Of! |
214 |
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Skill 24 |
Working
with Others |
215 |
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Instructor Pages |
215 |
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Worksheet 116 |
Sharing a Job |
217 |
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Worksheet 117 |
Working as a Team |
219 |
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Worksheet 118 |
Cooperating with Authority |
220 |
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Worksheet 119 |
Brainstorming |
221 |
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Worksheet 130 |
Carrying Out Your Responsibilities |
222 |
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Skill 25 |
Dealing
with Strangers |
223 |
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Instructor Pages |
223 |
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Worksheet 121 |
Being Overly Friendly to Strangers |
225 |
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Worksheet 122 |
Strangers Who Ask Too Much |
226 |
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Worksheet 123 |
When You Want Something |
227 |
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Worksheet 134 |
Rude Behavior of Others |
228 |
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Worksheet 125 |
From Stranger to Friend |
229 |
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Skill 26 |
Reacting
Appropriately to Peer Pressure |
230 |
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Instructor Pages |
230 |
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Worksheet 136 |
Feeling the Pressure |
232 |
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Worksheet 127 |
Everybody’s Doing It |
233 |
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Worksheet 128 |
Positive and Negative Peer Pressure |
234 |
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Worksheet 129 |
When There’s a Conflict |
236 |
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Worksheet 130 |
Resisting Negative Pressure |
237 |
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Skill 27 |
Revealing
Yourself to Others |
238 |
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Instructor Pages |
238 |
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Worksheet 131 |
Mysterious or Just Plain Quiet? |
240 |
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Worksheet 132 |
Why Tell About Yourself? |
241 |
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Worksheet 133 |
Revealing Things to Be Polite |
242 |
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Worksheet 134 |
Revealing Things to Make Conversation |
243 |
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Worksheet 135 |
Take a Risk, Open Up |
244 |
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PART TWO |
USING
SOCIAL SKILLS |
245 |
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Chapter 4 |
Using
Social Skills at Home |
247 |
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Instructor Pages |
247 |
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Worksheet 136 |
Getting Along with Parents |
251 |
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Worksheet 137 |
Getting Along with Siblings |
252 |
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Worksheet 138 |
Balancing Responsibilities and
Desires |
253 |
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Worksheet 139 |
Intrusions on Privacy |
255 |
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Worksheet 140 |
Handling a Divorce or Family Split |
256 |
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Worksheet 141 |
Living with Abusive or Dysfunctional
Family Members |
258 |
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Worksheet 142 |
Spending Quality Time with My Family |
259 |
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Worksheet 143 |
Learning About My Family |
261 |
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Worksheet 144 |
Becoming Independent |
262 |
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Worksheet 145 |
Forgiving Others |
263 |
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Worksheet 146 |
I’m Embarrassed About My Family |
265 |
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Worksheet 147 |
Being Proud of My Family |
267 |
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Chapter 5 |
Using
Social Skills at School |
269 |
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Instructor Pages |
269 |
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Worksheet 148 |
Getting Along with Teachers or
Authority Figures |
273 |
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Worksheet 149 |
Managing a Social Life |
275 |
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Worksheet 150 |
Asking for Help |
277 |
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Worksheet 151 |
Failing Glasses |
278 |
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Worksheet 153 |
Discipline Problems |
279 |
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Worksheet 153 |
Intimidation from Other Students |
280 |
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Worksheet 154 |
Developing a Bad Attitude Toward
School |
281 |
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Worksheet 155 |
Getting Involved in Extracurricular
Activities |
283 |
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Worksheet 156 |
Giving Extra Effort Toward Excellence |
284 |
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Worksheet 157 |
School Goals |
285 |
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Worksheet 158 |
Work-Study Options |
286 |
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Worksheet 159 |
School Safety |
287 |
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Chapter 6 |
Using
Social Skills at Work |
289 |
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Instructor Pages |
289 |
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Worksheet 160 |
Getting Along with Your Supervisor |
294 |
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Worksheet 161 |
Getting Along with Coworkers |
296 |
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Worksheet 163 |
Understanding the Skills Required for
the Job |
297 |
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Worksheet 163 |
Developing Good Work Habits |
298 |
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Worksheet 164 |
Following Instructions |
299 |
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Worksheet 165 |
Dealing with Complaining Customers |
300 |
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Worksheet 166 |
Being Resourceful |
301 |
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Worksheet 167 |
Taking Initiative for Promotion |
302 |
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Worksheet 168 |
Sick Days |
304 |
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Worksheet 169 |
Cell Phones at Work |
306 |
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“Worksheet 170 |
What Not to Wear, Say, Do |
308 |
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Worksheet 171 |
Workplace Work Space |
309 |
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Chapter 7 |
Using
Social Skills with Peers |
311 |
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Instructor Pages |
311 |
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Worksheet 172 |
Respecting Others as Individuals |
316 |
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Worksheet 173 |
Developing Healthy Relationships with
the Opposite Sex |
317 |
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Worksheet 174 |
Taking Advantage of Social
Opportunities |
319 |
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Worksheet 175 |
Deciding How Much Influence Others
Will Have over You |
320 |
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Worksheet 176 |
Getting Involved with People with
Problems |
321 |
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Worksheet 177 |
Feeling Outcast |
323 |
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Worksheet 178 |
When a Friend Is in Trouble |
324 |
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Worksheet 179 |
Choosing to Befriend Someone |
325 |
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Worksheet 180 |
Becoming a Good Conversationalist |
326 |
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Worksheet 181 |
Being a Peer Role Model |
328 |
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Worksheet 182 |
Misunderstandings |
330 |
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Worksheet 183 |
Taking and Giving |
331 |
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Chapter 8 |
Using
Social Skills in the Community |
333 |
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Instructor Pages |
333 |
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Worksheet 184 |
Having Respect for the Property of
Others |
336 |
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Worksheet 185 |
Demonstrating Good Manners Toward
Others |
337 |
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Worksheet 186 |
Respecting Community Authority
Figures |
338 |
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Worksheet 187 |
Being Aware of Local Issues |
339 |
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Worksheet 188 |
Supporting Efforts to Improve the
Community |
340 |
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Worksheet 189 |
Dealing with Unhelpful People |
342 |
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Worksheet 190 |
Volunteering at Agencies |
343 |
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Worksheet 191 |
Your Local Newspaper |
344 |
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Worksheet 192 |
Helping Each Other |
345 |
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Worksheet 193 |
Promoting Your Community |
346 |
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Worksheet 194 |
Getting to Know People in Your Community |
347 |
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Worksheet 195 |
Participating in Community Events |
348 |
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